Chapter 1021: Chapter 1007: It’s So Hard

Su Xuan smiled and said that sometimes he felt it was really not easy for men in this society. Back then, without relying on any resources from his parents, he went alone to the Imperial Capital to make it on his own, and even with his high education, he found it incredibly difficult.

Each month, once his salary came in, it was practically gone after paying rent and other miscellaneous expenses. Later, he dated a girlfriend, Meng Jiayi, and during that time, Su Xuan felt utterly exhausted. Initially, he thought the two of them could live their own lives and work together for the future, which was a beautiful thought.

However, Su Xuan later discovered that many things don’t go the way you think. He had been working very hard, staying up until two or three in the morning numerous times, but Meng Jiayi never seemed to notice and even thought Su Xuan was indifferent and laid-back.

One was exhausted to death, while the other idled around all day long. Every time Su Xuan returned to their rented apartment, he felt agitated because it was a mess. Seeing Meng Jiayi lying in bed, staring at her phone, left Su Xuan feeling helplessly hopeless.

At the time, Su Xuan knew he at least had a support system, but how many truly don’t have one? That is the real tragedy, making life feel despairing.

Just like Su Xuan once said, a man doesn’t marry a wife to bring himself grief or to anger himself. Men generally don’t mind how much a woman can alleviate their life burden, but most men genuinely dislike seeing their wives idling around all day, especially in this society.

You have to understand that men already face enormous life pressures in this society, with exorbitantly high bride prices and needing to have a house and a car. If you’re a wealthy second-generation, naturally you have a father to rely on, but how many ordinary guys can rely on that? That’s why many can’t afford to marry a wife.

“So you cut ties back then because your wife didn’t have a job.”

Li Qingxue softly asked.

Su Xuan shrugged and smiled.

“Pretty much. I’ve told you before that I’m actually a wealthy second-generation. Whether or not my wife makes money doesn’t matter to me, but I hate women who don’t work. I find those types of women give me a headache; when someone is too idle, they tend to let their imagination run wild, and it’s just inappropriate. A woman should live out her own elegance, not let herself be without any image.”

Su Xuan said very earnestly, and when he finished, Li Qingxue nodded, deeply touched, looking at Su Xuan.

“But there are actually very few people like you. The male-to-female ratio in Huaxia is seriously imbalanced, and not many men can cut ties so firmly. Most people still choose to settle.”

Su Xuan gave a bitter smile and said.

“Yes, there are too many people like that, making such families hard to manage. Men may not truly care about how much money a woman earns but care about their mindset. Like my ex-girlfriend, what annoyed me the most was every time I talked reason with her, she had a studious attitude, as if she’d change and work hard for the home we’re building together.

But come the next morning, she’s back to her lazy ways. Honestly, that’s what frustrated me the most. When I lost my temper and said something, she’d reply, ‘So you can’t stand me having a little fun? You weren’t saying that when you were pursuing me, saying you’d support me for life.’

Hearing such things at the time made Su Xuan incredibly averse. He wondered what was wrong with some women; do they really want to live without self-respect? Getting a job is just to live a bit more respectably. Isn’t that a good thing? Why live like a parasite?

That was also why he directly proposed the breakup at the time.

“Actually, when it comes down to it, I broke up with her because our values were different. The high divorce rate in Huaxia is, to put it plainly, because of differing values.”

Su Xuan smiled and said. He was willing to explain so much to Li Qingxue because he appreciated her. Su Xuan doesn’t like a woman becoming a workaholic, but he hopes a woman can find joy in her work, which is actually a better way of life. Otherwise, even if marrying into a wealthy family might seem glamorous for a few years, once you discard all aspects of your own life, what can you truly gain? Su Xuan had seen too many so-called wealthy families.

So many women’s originally brilliant lives are ruined because of marrying into wealth. Su Xuan greatly admired a certain actress who said, ‘I don’t need to marry into a wealthy family because I am wealthy myself.’ That is true freedom and a manifestation of a woman’s charm.

“Yes, society is developing too fast, and life becomes too hectic. At the beginning of a relationship, two people are still in sync, but many women feel they don’t need to work after marrying a man, then start to decline. Meanwhile, men have to work harder to survive and for a decent life, creating an invisible gap. Their values continuously shift, and eventually, they discover that because of different values, their lives can no longer merge.”

“Yeah, that’s about right. That’s also why divorce in the entertainment industry seems like child’s play—because their world moves faster, facing more temptations and changing circumstances leading to different values.”

Su Xuan softly explained. When he finished, Li Qingxue nodded, looked at Su Xuan, and mischievously said.

“I might actually be falling in love with you, wealthy second-generation man.”

“Cough, cough… Don’t joke around. I was just joking with you. I already have a bunch of girlfriends, so let’s not fool around anymore.”

Su Xuan quickly replied, while Li Qingxue mischievously smiled at him. Truth be told, although she wasn’t really falling for Su Xuan, she did appreciate him.

In this era, many women act up, but many troublesome women are actually made so by men. While pursuing a girl, many men promise the moon and stars, declaring ‘my wife is mine to support, so what if she has a bad temper? I’ll spoil her.’ This is a problematic mindset.

Relationships, whether between lovers or friends, are best built on a relatively stable foundation, where people aren’t dramatic. Isn’t that often discussed in those circulating remarks on WeChat?